PD3 – Day 9: Really????!!!!!!

I used to think that Murphy’s Law, when your husband is away, that is when you need him most, was not entirely true.  I used to think that no matter what the universe threw at me while my husband was deployed, TDY, or remotely stationed, that I could handle.  I can totally handle it, but really?  Now I totally believe in the military rule of Murphy’s Law.  When the spouse is away, Puck (the Midsummer Night’s Dream One), comes to play.

I closed the garage door this morning and heard a loud bang.  I leave my double jogging stroller in the garage, so I had the stroller with me, walking my son to school.  I was hoping the loud bang was just something falling over.  After dropping my son off, going for a run and playing with my daughter for a little while at the park, I returned home.  After investigating, I discovered that the garage door spring broke and the wires on both sides came undone.  I moved the garage door to manual mode and tried to lift it. I got it up about a foot and a half and couldn’t get it any higher.  My car was trapped inside the garage and I had to pick up my eldest daughter from school in about an hour and a half.  I put in a work order with our property management company and waited.  I rang my neighbor’s doorbells to see if anyone was home, but it was to no avail.  I did what I hate to do, but I had run out of options.  I called my husband’s shop to see if they could spare someone to help me get the garage door up so I could get the car out.  The positive side of this is they were able to send someone out and I was able to get the car out.  I should have the garage door fixed by tomorrow.  Not that horrible of a situation anymore.

As I was dealing with the broken garage door, I received an email, unrelated, from our property managers.  It was a 30 day to Vacate notice because the owner is selling.  What???!!!!  I started creating checklists in my mind of everything I need to do.  I started looking up places on Zillow and plan to start calling tomorrow.  I am trying my best to make sure we stay in the same area so that my kids don’t have to change schools.  Not a great time for this to happen, but I know that it will all work itself out.  I am going to  probably be doing a lot of packing into the wee hours and hoping that a pizza and beer party will lure my husband’s co-workers to come help me move everything.  This is definitely a nightmare, but at least we’ll be able to downsize as we go and be even more ready for my husband’s return and our current follow on to Japan.  I just might enjoy a glass of wine tonight because I don’t know when I will have the time for another one in the next 30 days.

Yes, things kind of suck right now, but I have to take the cards we’ve been dealt and make a good hand out of them for my husband and my children.  It’s not the situations that define us, it is what we do with them that gives us our defining moments.

My children all ate dinner tonight, which was lentil soup with quesadilla slices.  I wasn’t worried about them eating the quesadilla, but I was super happy that they all ate at least some of the lentil soup.  Small win, but a win none the less.

The car is free!  Yay!  I can take people to school and pick them up, we will make it to karate tomorrow and I was blessed that my husband’s shop was able to help me out.  Those men and women are amazing and I am always grateful to the way they always treat us like family.

I dealt with my son today without yelling.  His behavior is the most difficult for me to figure out.  He goes from 0 to 100 in the blink of an eye.  Sometimes I can get past all of the screaming and crying and get him to calm down and see clearly again.  Other times, I resort to putting him in his room until he can calm down or yelling to try to get him to snap out of his tantrum.  Today was a good day.  He had a few meltdowns, but I was able to find out what was going on.  He was in need of more attention.  I gave him five minutes, and it made all the difference in the world.  Definitely a positive step forward for us.

Sometimes the universe slaps us in the face to keep us on our toes.  I’m hoping I can find the positives in these next thirty days to keep me moving forward.